Autism Disclosure Does Not Make Me a Target

Dear Phoenix, It is often that I hear from parents that they are afraid to disclose their child’s Autism because they make their child a target.  My first question is, why do people believe this? First, let me say what usually remains unsaid, Autism is only invisible from a selective point of view.  When onlookers […]

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Tonight, I am Playing the Shadow Songs for You

Instead of writing a letter to Phoenix, tonight, I will be taking my violin to the edge of the water to play shadow songs to the sunset. Inspired by a student who taught me of the Japanese concept “mono no aware”, the awareness of impermanence (mujō), or transience of things, and both a transient gentle sadness […]

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Collective Friendship

Dear Phoenix, Back in early 2015 I was working hard to grow past many of my limitations, and push myself towards my dream.  I wrote a script for one of my 5 minute positive takeaway videos, but never got a chance to make it.  Chasing a dream takes ample energy, and all of my resources. […]

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Finding My Passion for Teaching

Dear Phoenix, There is a certain kind of giddy I get when I think about the students I teach.  Every one of them brings to me a renewed sense of the world around me. When I first started teaching, I worked as an after school music tutor.  After a few sessions, I knew that teaching […]

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Presuming Parental Compentence

Dear Phoenix, I am getting ready to talk about us at a conference in San Diego next month. As I was scanning my past presentations, I realized that the gap between parents and teachers are growing, and neither of them are to blame. A quick scan of therapies for Autism, and articles on special education, […]

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Traveling with Autism is getting harder, not easier. Why?

Dear Phoenix, It is not uncommon to see public spaces with accommodations of various types.  Restaurants have high chairs for little ones who can’t reach the tables quite yet.  Shopping malls have strollers for children and wheelchairs for elderly who find it difficult to walk the entire mall.  Even in states with public smoking restrictions, […]

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Teaching Phoenix to Climb

Dear Phoenix, It has been a few days since I last wrote to you, but something amazing has happened.  I am in Alta, Wyoming attending the wedding of a good friend of mine.  She wanted my shadow songs to accompany her wedding on the top of a mountain facing Grand Teton.  It is beautiful. To […]

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Today I am Proud of my Autistic Son

Dear Phoenix, I have to tell you today about my son, Jacob.  After years of hard work, struggling with people telling him he would fail because of his autism, and many mistakes, he graduated high school.  He will be 17 on Friday. Like it?  I think his ideas for design are fascinating.  You can see […]

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