My Spectacular Meltdown of 2018 and Why I’m Still an Alien

I’ve just had one of my most spectacular meltdowns.  As an adult on the spectrum, living independently and being a single parent, many people assume I have gotten past these types of hurdles.  Meltdowns, or breakdowns as some people call them, play in the minds of typical people as a behaviour associated with juvenile emotions, […]

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They’re right, I’m a Nothing?

Dear Phoenix, It took me 3 days to prepare myself to make that phone call.  Phone calls remain my one major test as a person with Autism, my Kobayashi Maru.  To most people, this sounds silly or trite, but for me it is real. For those of us who struggle with communication, the phone can be […]

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How to stop time

Dear Phoenix, Negativity is a foul disease that infects the air of adventure.  The information wars between those who push and those who seek are louder now, and it seems fear has its fingers on the volume dial.  Though the heat from your flames are scorching me, for the first time I find I am […]

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When Charity Taketh Away

How Autism Speaks stole income from working Autistic people This past week I presented at a conference in San Diego called Love and Autism.  The conference was put together by the amazing professionals at The Family Guidance and Therapy Center of Southern California. I have spoken at many conferences, but this one is the most […]

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Collective Friendship

Dear Phoenix, Back in early 2015 I was working hard to grow past many of my limitations, and push myself towards my dream.  I wrote a script for one of my 5 minute positive takeaway videos, but never got a chance to make it.  Chasing a dream takes ample energy, and all of my resources. […]

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Traveling with Autism is getting harder, not easier. Why?

Dear Phoenix, It is not uncommon to see public spaces with accommodations of various types.  Restaurants have high chairs for little ones who can’t reach the tables quite yet.  Shopping malls have strollers for children and wheelchairs for elderly who find it difficult to walk the entire mall.  Even in states with public smoking restrictions, […]

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Today I am Proud of my Autistic Son

Dear Phoenix, I have to tell you today about my son, Jacob.  After years of hard work, struggling with people telling him he would fail because of his autism, and many mistakes, he graduated high school.  He will be 17 on Friday. Like it?  I think his ideas for design are fascinating.  You can see […]

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Monday Grievances

Dear Phoenix, I’m filled with so much frustration over the way things are going for me lately that all of my carefully built filters are burning off.  I am finding it more and more difficult to keep quiet about the things others do that hinder progress, or create barriers.  I wanted to write to you […]

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